Many a times in life we feel overwhelmed by the barriers in front of us. Whether those problems occur because of our own fault, because of surroundings and companies that have influence on us or because of the resistance from others. Such moments create huge frustration, we feel like losing hope, giving up and that very moment we want to shut everyone out, no talk fazes us, no song relaxes our mind. And we fall deeper and deeper into the pit of depression. The very obvious question arises, how to tackle negative thinking
Today I won’t be talking about how to get success, how to be millionaire or how to get most out of anything. Today I will talk about us, about me and about you.
How to tackle negative thinking
Here’s what we need to consider and have to give a thought:
“LIVE” in today
Yes, most of us don’t live in present. We are either caught in the worries of future that’s not concrete and is dynamic, changing always or we are captivated by our past memories. Thinking what we could have done to avoid that mishap. Worrying what will happen to us tomorrow. In this entire struggle we forget that our past, our future all depends on what we do “today”.
The actions we take today will become our past and their consequences will become our future. So why not stop worrying about yesterday and tomorrow and why not take a little step today towards our dream. It will not only glorify our past and future but also provide us a satisfaction that can’t be bought.
“Yesterday is history, tomorrows a mystery, all we have got is today, that’s why it’s called PRESENT”
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Stop dwelling on conditional statements
“Expecting is the greatest impediment to living. In anticipation of tomorrow, it loses today.”
If you are focusing on what you are missing, what other people are doing, or how much success you would have if X would happen, it is for naught. You are placing the focus on how certain conditions would make your life great, instead of what you can do. While it’s good to have goals, this is not the same thing.
Focus on what you can control. By focusing on conditions that don’t exist and won’t materialize magically, you are effectively daydreaming instead of actually taking the steps to accomplish what you want. When you examine what is within your reach, you can effectively guide yourself forward.
A good way to wake yourself from the reverie of conditional thinking, is to ask, “can I control this?” If so, do what you need to–effectively and without haste. If you cannot control something, then take action on the items within your reach, and forget about everything beyond it.
Thomas Edison said:
“Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work”
This is not to say that we are averse to hard work, but that our minds miss opportunity because we equate it with obstacle.
Whenever an obstacle arises, our immediate response is that we run away because we don’t have any plan to get past it. We might hesitate, and the longer we take to analyze or look at the challenge, the bigger it becomes.
Instead of tackling issue, we allow worries to settle in. We create greater distance between problem and ability to solve it.
So the first thing we can do is to call it an Opportunity rather than obstacle, problem or challenge. Words are linked to emotions and they have a big effect on our mind.
Calling it as an opportunity not only makes us feel that we can achieve something but also our minds start working to figure out a way.
Once we have identified our perceived opportunity, we can devise a plan to handle it and search for help.
For example, if you have a question about your ability to pursue your new fitness goals, you might ask a friend who did something similar what they did to take advantage of that opportunity. You might also find an online community of people who are faced with the same set of circumstances, and discover a host of potential approaches you had not previously considered.
If all else fails, you can research your specific circumstances and seek answers from the gatekeepers. If the response is not one you want to hear, you can use that for insight into future approaches (in other words–don’t give up because it might be as simple as shifting your attitude or approach).
If it doesn’t work out, in the end, you have an experience that has helped fortify and prepare you for other opportunities. Howard Marks, co-founder of Oaktree Capital, and author of The Most Important Thing, echoes this sentiment when he said “Experience is what you got when you didn’t get what you wanted.”
Focus on your goals
Once you have identified and outlined your goals, you must unhesitatingly place your focus on pursuing them. When you get rejected, remind yourself that it builds your resilience. When you do not receive a response at all, focus on improving from your last effort. When you have no idea why it isn’t working, evaluate whether your goal truly aligns with what you want from your life, and if it does, continue your relentless pursuit.
Do not be discouraged by a no today, because tomorrow, or 435 tomorrow’s later might await the yes you need in order to proceed with fulfilling your commitment to your life’s work. This is easier said than done. In that vein create a daily reminder for yourself that encourages you to continue pursuit of your efforts.
What are other things that stop you from achieving what you deserve? What are your fears?
Comment down below or E-mail me. We will together find a solution.
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